Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: member of more than one group?

[Berrins (Berrins]

In a message dated 12/24/99 5:43:46 PM, catya [at] homeport.org writes:

<< Here's a follow-up question - I've noticed a few postings here that 
mentioned being involved with more than
one cohousing group... Is this common?  Is it considered "bad form"?

I'm thinking of getting involved in a couple of local possibilities, but am 
not sure what the proper
etiquette around that would be.. >>

Hi catya-
        I have no idea if there is any "proper etiquette".  However, we have 
had a few people who were "just looking" and were also checking out other 
groups.  No one seemed to mind.
    The reality is, especially for the first few meetings, the individual is 
checking out the group, the new town/city and maybe just getting a feel for 
this "cohousing thing".   Once it's been more than a few meetings, it may 
depend on whether or not there is any space left for you to move into.  If 
not, then how could we blame you for checking out another group?  If there is 
room, and they need commitments (and money), it might be tough to leave if 
there isn't a waiting list when you decide to go.   On the other hand, one of 
the founding households of this present group left when a spot opened up in 
Amherst, and not one of the other founders has ever expressed any hard 
feelings whatsoever.  So go figure.
    Good luck.....

    -Roger