Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: Swimming pools

[Michael D (ohanamd]

I agree that distinguishing between wants and needs is important.  However,
what one person perceives as a need is still going to only be a want to a
second person and to a third person something they don't even want.

As an example, Robyn called a swimming pool a need.  To me, since it isn't a
matter of safety or potential for harm, then it isn't a need.  That's how I
define an absolute need.  I also talk about relative needs.  A relative need
is "In order for ___ to happen, I need ___."  But then whatever we're
calling a need must be undeniably required.  For example, in order for me to
drive legally, I need to get a driver's license.  A driver's license is a
need relative to driving legally but isn't an absolute need because I could
live healthily and safely without driving.

As another example, some people think rules about pets are a need.  Others
think not having rules about pets is a need.  A third group thinks only
having a few rules in plain English is a need.

The resolution of that kind of difference is, in my opinion, one of the
crucial determinants of whether a community will survive and flourish or not
(just as it is in a relationship).

Michael