Cohousing-L Mailing List: Option Method/was Hidden projections of expectations

[Judy Baxter (BAXTER]

Rob wrote:
<Community is a great mirror for looking at these unexamined expectations. When
you find yourself annoyed at another person, ask yourself: is it because they
are not like you? Then ask yourself, why should they be like me?

Expectations can be a unnecessary burden. If you hold the expectation that
community meals  should be offered every night, then you will be
disappointed if meals are only twice a week.  If you examine your
expectations, then learn to question them, you may find letting go  of some
of them will make you happier and perhaps more appreciative of  the wonders
around you.
>

I couldn't agree more. And you don't have to do the examination in a group,
though  I think that would be great.

A tool I have been using mostly by myself, to examine my beliefs/expectations
and decide which ones work for me and which I can drop , is 
        the Option Method and the Dialogue process which is one of it's major
tools.

Issues around beliefs about work, doing things "like me " - yep, there sure are
beliefs there that aren't helpful for me.

For me, the best known book, _Happiness is a Choice_, was very helpful, an
introductory workshop took the concepts to a new level, and further work at the
Option Institute has made this a big part of my life.

So, if you want to explore these tools, check out,
http://www.option.org/index2.html

Judy

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Information Session coming up - May 10, Thurs, 7:30pm.

where, after 8 years in residence, we are finally ready to take on re-doing our
porch  into a 4 season large space for play, dance, . . . 
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