Cohousing-L Mailing List: thread on "growing" and "changing"

[Fred H Olson (fholson]

Christine Pattee,  Greater Hartford CT Cohousing   C2pattee [at] aol.com
is the author of the message below. 
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I really appreciate Kay's honesty in describing her feelings when trying
to show folks how to do something.  I, too, often feel the tension between
wanting to share information that I think the group needs to know, and
getting criticized for the way I put it out.  I may not have the best
people skills in the world, but I have noticed that the worst trashing
comes when I say something factually true, but difficult for the group to
hear.

Christine Pattee
Greater Hartford CT Cohousing 

In a message dated 11/30/01 10:48:44 PM Pacific Standard Time, 
cohousing-l-request [at] cohousing.org writes:
> 
> Message: 2
> From: "Kay Argyle" <argyle [at] mines.utah.edu>
> To: "cohousing-L" <cohousing-L [at] cohousing.org>
> Subject: Re: [C-L]_Takoma Village Has a Clean Commonhouse!
> Date: Fri, 30 Nov 2001 12:58:45 -0700
> Reply-To: cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org
> 
> My sympathies are with the guy who said I'm organizing this, we'll do
> it my way, on my schedule.  We've got members who want flexibility but
> also want to work with other people.  So the person in charge arranges
> their own schedule around multiple work parties at other people's
> convenience. Generally I've been willing to do it, for the sake of
> making people happy. (Personally, I'd rather work by myself.)
> 
> I'm not feeling very accommodating today, after a clearing meeting
> that included criticism about my supervisory skills.  (A couple of
> people also said they appreciate my knowledge and my willingness to
> share it, but I tend to discount praise -- oh, she's a nice person to
> say that -- and take criticism very much to heart.  My problem, I
> know.)



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