Cohousing-L Mailing List: RE: inquiry about conflict resolution techniques

[Rob Sandelin (floriferous]

At Sharingwood there has been a study group of non-violent communication as
promoted by Marshall Roseburg (although like most things, it is recessed for
August). The 4 step model this work promotes, while not specifically a
conflict resolution process, does in fact, resolve conflicts nicely.

Rob Sandelin
Sharingwood, where there is still a one bedroom rental available,
www.sharingwood.org



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From: cohousing-l-admin [at] cohousing.org
[mailto:cohousing-l-admin [at] cohousing.org]On Behalf Of S. Kashdan
Sent: Wednesday, July 31, 2002 12:02 AM
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Subject: [C-L]_inquiry about conflict resolution techniques


Hello fellow cohousers,

Here at Jackson Place Cohousing in the heart of Seattle, we moved in last
fall and winter. We think we have finally sold our last unit, our common
meals are happening five times a week, four times on weekday evenings and
one late morning on weekends, and our gardens are actually growing. A lot of
things are going well, and we are having some problems that we are working
on.

We are also working on developing procedures for better dealing with present
and future challenges, so we don't have to deal with things ad hoc, as we
have been basically doing up to now.

As part of that process, we are working on developing a number of different
options for dealing with conflict resolution in our community, since we are
all so different in our approaches.


We already utilize issues meetings for community-wide issues.

We are thinking of having an available list of members who are willing to
offer perspective, advise and support in addressing conflict.

We are also thinking of paying for those who want it to get conflict
resolution training.

In really tense conflicts, we are considering having the option of paying
for outside mediation.

We are also thinking of providing an internal structure for mediation, e.g.
each party can bring a person with them for support, or request that a
single member be available to mediate.

We think it would be very helpful to know what specific methods other
communities use to handle conflict. So, I have searched the Cohousing-L
archives, and I have especially read over the posts from the end of 2001 and
the beginning of 2002, reaching into the spring. I noticed that there were a
lot of good book recommendations (which some of us will follow up), and some
discussion of specific conflicts and specific problems involved in conflict
resolution. But, we are hoping to get more concrete descriptions of what, if
any conflict resolution procedures and techniques other cohousing
communities are regularly using, and what seems to work well or what doesn't
work well.

I would therefore very much appreciate it if you could tell us about the
specific techniques that your community uses to handle conflict.

Thanks in advance, from a young and growing cohousing community,
Sylvie Kashdan
Jackson Place Cohousing
800 Hiawatha Place South
Seattle, WA 98144
www.seattlecohousing.org

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