Re: why people leave cohousing | <– Date –> <– Thread –> |
From: Rob Sandelin (floriferous![]() |
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Date: Fri, 29 Sep 2006 10:22:16 -0700 (PDT) |
Over a ten year period I interviewed about 60 people who had left or were leaving cohousing, some from my own community, others from places where I was doing workshops. Here is a simple list from those interviews in order of frequency: Change in job requires move Out of state family crisis Control issues (parenting issues are part of this) Bad relationships with neighbors Privacy issues Cost, personal finance, issues Location issues Often it is a combination of more than one thing. For example a bad relationship and the community is too far from work. It took on average about two years for someone dissatisfied with their situation to actually move, sometimes this time was spent trying to rectify privacy, control or relationship issues. The lack of success in doing so was a common thread in why people left. It was surprising to me how bitter some people were upon leaving cohousing, it reminded me of how people in divorce talk about their ex. I took away from this the impression that some people place a huge emotional attachment to their community fantasies and when reality does not match they blame the community for somehow failing them. The people with no bitterness in the parting were mostly very clear that they did not match the kind of people that would be happy living in community, that it was an experiment that did not work out for them. In my own community all of the above issues have been cause for people to move on. Location is probably one of the largest, followed by control issues, especially parenting control. Rob Sandelin Sharingwood Cohousing, Snohomish County, WA Naturalist, Writer The Environmental Science School http://www.nonprofitpages.com/nica/SVE.htm ><((((º>`·..·`·..·`·...><((((º>...·`·..·`·...><((((º>.·`·..·`·...><((((º>.·` ·..·`·...><((((º>·.. ><((((º> ·`·..·`·...·..·`><((((º>.·`·..·`·...><((((º>.·`·..·`·...><((((º>..·`·..·`·.. .><((((º>·.. ·`·..·`·....·`·..·`·...><((((º> -- No virus found in this outgoing message. Checked by AVG Free Edition. Version: 7.1.407 / Virus Database: 268.12.10/459 - Release Date: 9/29/2006
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