Cohousing-L Mailing List: Parent control issues

[Rob Sandelin (floriferous]

 Emily asked:  What do you mean when referring to control issues
specifically with parenting? Parents not appreciating feed back from their
neighbors? Neighbors feeding (etc) other peoples children in a way they
werent' comfortable with?

When you live in a group situation with kids, the parents of your kids
friends have a great deal of influence over your child. You can not control
this influence and sometimes the group norms are not your family norms. So
for example, if a bunch of the other kids all watch a particular TV show,
and your child is not allowed to do so, they can easily evade your control
by going over to another kids house. Diet, TV, risk behaviors, sexual
orientation (gay and lesbian parents) movies are much harder to control in
community than outside. As a parent in community it is not really workable
to say, I don't want you playing with so and so. This lack of control is
hard for some parents.


Rob Sandelin
Naturalist, Writer
The Environmental Science School
http://www.nonprofitpages.com/nica/SVE.htm
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