Cohousing-L Mailing List: screening new residents

[LouHarr (LouHarr]

from TAW, in Sebastopol, Ca
60 miles N of SF/Oakland
 
Coho-L,
 
Screening as you grow?
 
   There is another DOWNSIDE for active  pre-screening for members style.
   By being based on fear of the wrong people,  it pulls in all the other 
attributes that go with fear. Such as: looking for  flaws, emphasizing  them, 
gathering evidence, gossip, gathering allies etc.  This can color a groups 
perspective very readily. 
  Being verbal about financial needs of the group  early on really helps
  To be a happy group, an open, generous, friendly, clear  tone will be 
needed again and again to help you keep going through it  all.
  All the advice you have received: "present who you are  etc" will work ,and 
helps to build community as you go along. 
  There may be behavioral "limits" that you will  find.From my perspective 
there is no need to be mute about discomforts that  arise and are part of 
gaining Clarity.
 
Good Luck and good times to you.   Louise  Harris