Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: FIRST POST Questions and sort of statement (Wayne Tyson)

[Wayne Tyson (landrest]

Neena,

Thanks for the ideas; they will help a lot, especially in an environment of 
no rules about not talking about rules or no rules.

Where I'm going with this is a challenge to the straight-jacketing effects 
of rules and laws as a substitute for social mores and, of course, "working 
things out." I know this is uncomfortable for some, but I join you in 
appreciating the cordial nature of the discourse.

Will kids be better off in a rules environment or a no-rules environment?

WT


----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Neena Jud" <harmony [at] one.net>
To: <cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org>
Sent: Wednesday, September 08, 2010 7:56 AM
Subject: Re: [C-L]_ FIRST POST Questions and sort of statement (Wayne Tyson)


> Re: FIRST POST  Questions and sort of statement (Wayne Tyson)
>
> This has been an interesting discussion, and I look forward to reading 
> more.
> I appreciate that it is a cordial discussion. That enables others to learn
> and absorb the concepts so much better.
>
> One consideration that I would like to add when thinking about the "No
> rules." concept, is the affect of time on the community. What is going to
> happen in 20 years when the kids are grown (and hopefully have learned
> respect in those growing years) and new people have joined the community? 
> I
> suggest watching the movie "The Village" by M. Night Shyamalan, then get
> into discussion with your group.
>
> Rules exist in the outside world. Rules need to be talked about. Whatever
> document you develop for your community should somehow address rules - 
> more
> for the benefit of future generations rather than right now.
>
> My experience in this comes, not from being in a co-housing community, but
> by being involved in a community of people who manage a nature preserve in
> exchange for the benefit of using it for camping. This piece of property 
> has
> been under "our" control for 21 years. Four years ago, we created a
> non-profit organization to take ownership of the property. Right now three
> of us are trying to hash out an amendment to an agreement that clarifies
> some things for future generations.
>
> The whole reason any of us first came to this property was to "play", to
> relax and enjoy ourselves away from civilization. Over time, we realized
> that we should pitch in and help take care of the place so that it stays 
> as
> nice as it is. This led to organization, and documenting the organization
> (which are trappings of the civilization from which we enjoy being away). 
> It
> helps to have annotations that explain how or why certain decisions were
> made. These form the guidelines for the future, and help the younger 
> members
> understand how this preserve developed.
>
> Just another thought to throw into the mix.
>
> Neena Jud
>
>
>
>
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