Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: Community Agreements [Was: FIRST POST Questions and sort of statement (Wayne Tyson)]

[Elizabeth Magill (pastorlizm]

> Sharon Villines wrote:
>
> > One thing you learn in cohousing, is that there is no such thing
> > as common sense.  Common sense only exists in culturally and
> > educationally similar groups.  The minute diversity walks in,
> > everybody needs to sit right down and talk about things.
>
> Ellen said: Amen.



And liz adds:
and then write down what you said in that discussion!

which results in rules (or guidelines, or expectations, or guideance,  
or whatever language doesn't push your buttons.)

So that new people know what has happened, old people remember what  
has happened, and people without "reading non-verbal expression  
skills" can be a part of the community.

I hope it was clear that I am biased strongly in favor of writing  
down rules (guidelines, expectations, guides, etc.)

-Liz
Elizabeth Magill
www.worcesterfellowship.org




On Sep 9, 2010, at 11:09 PM, Ellen Keyne Seebacher wrote:

> On Thu, Sep 09, 2010 at 08:10:15PM -0400, Sharon Villines wrote:
>
> > One thing you learn in cohousing, is that there is no such thing
> > as common sense.  Common sense only exists in culturally and
> > educationally similar groups.  The minute diversity walks in,
> > everybody needs to sit right down and talk about things.
>
> Amen.
>
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