Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: Consensus, Majority Vote, "Blocks" [was Report on Survey of Cohousing Communities 2011. Just released. A must read!

[R Philip Dowds (rpdowds]

An occasional problem we have is that of thwarting:  Person A is holding a 
grudge against Person B or Committee Y, and pretty much blocks (or more 
precisely, delays) everything the other party seeks to accomplish.  Since 
everyone in Cambridge is very smart, these thwarts are usually dressed up in 
high-falutin' rationalizations — but basically, it's all interpersonal.  
Sometimes what we need is neither facilitation or process methodology, but 
psychotherapy.

Interestingly enough, we've recently succeeded in coaxing one of our chronic 
blockers to stand aside rather than thwart.  Are we making progress?  Or not?

R Philip Dowds AIA
Cornerstone Cohousing
175 Harvey Street, Unit 5
Cambridge, MA 02140
617.354.6094

On Oct 2, 2011, at 1:22 PM, Sharon Villines wrote:

> I would like to hear more about "frivolous" objections.