Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: Diversity

[Patricia Lautner (lautnerp]

Zev,

Now is a time for learning, not digging in your heels and white-splaining.
Micro-aggressions are unintentional, but one should learn from the hurt
caused and apologize.

Patti
Jamaica Plain Cohousing
Boston MA

On Wed, Feb 22, 2023 at 10:21 AM Kathleen Lowry <
kathleenlowrylpcclmft [at] gmail.com> wrote:

> Zen, Then why did you use it? It was offensive to me too. An apology is
> definitely in order. Kathleen
>
> > On Feb 22, 2023, at 7:20 AM, Zev Paiss <zevpaiss [at] gmail.com> wrote:
> >
> > Morning Everyone,
> > Wow this has been an amazing discussion. I deeply appreciate all the
> various comments and have been surprised by the diversity of responses. I
> even received a private message from a contributor asking me to stop
> posting and apologize for what I have said.
> >
> > I am curious why anyone would assume I think all blacks speak any
> certain way. The gentleman I referred to was sharing how his language
> changed when he went back to his childhood neighborhood and began to
> interact with old friends who still live there. His point was that his
> culture includes a language that many others would feel offensive. When I
> asked him why his friends uses the dreaded “n” word, he shared that they
> are reclaiming it so it can not be used against them which was a mind
> bender for me but made perfect sense in that context. He reiterated that it
> was not okay for me as a white man to use that word unless I had grown up
> with these folks.
> >
> > To be clear I have no intention of allowing any of this group to block
> my participation as that would only stifle the conversation.
> >
> > Keep up the excellent, uncomfortable and complex discussion!
> >
> > Zev Paiss
> > Nomad Cohousing, Founding Member
> > Boulder, CO
> > 720-232-3826
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