Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: Cohousing-L Digest, Vol 229, Issue 31

[Lauren Carter (lauren.carter.phd]

>
> [I would like to see an exhaustive list of micro aggressions. I think in
> the UK legislators are working on this re gender. I need my consciousness
> raised . I remember a short list from a class 30 years ago that included
> things like ?holding my purse tighter? (which I think I might have done at
> one time- no longer!)]
>

I think it's hard to make an exhaustive list of microaggressions. You could
start here - https://sph.umn.edu/site/docs/hewg/microaggressions.pdf or
https://www.npr.org/2020/06/08/872371063/microaggressions-are-a-big-deal-how-to-talk-them-out-and-when-to-walk-away

It might also be helpful to reference steps for making a sincere apology;
it is so easy to center ourselves when making an apology. I love Ria Moni's
thoughts on making a sincere apology (https://riamoni.gumroad.com/). You do
have to pay for her essay/infographic but I think that is MORE than
appropriate given it is *her *work. I think that making statements like
"comments can be easily misinterpreted" puts the burden on the person who
is offended - i.e., I'm sorry you are offended, you must have misunderstood
what I was intending. Again, impact is more important than intent.

Lauren Carter, Emerson Commons