Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: Cohousing-L Digest, Vol 250, Issue 15

[Patti Lentz (ptpattilentz]

At Cohousing Abq our Heart and Soul circle is working on our Conflict 
Transformation plan.  We have run into a question around confidentiality when 
someone or a group seeks support for a challenge they are having.  Whereas we 
all agree we need to hold what’s shared in confidence, how do we state when we 
would choose that another value overrides that?   When possibility of harm to 
oneself or others is expressed, if sexual misconduct is expressed….
If any communities have wording in their conflict agreements that might be 
helpful, we’d appreciate your input
Thanks
Patti Lentz
Cohousing Abq



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>   1. Dues and other expenses (Melanie Mindlin)
>   2. OPEN HOUSE Sat: 2br/1ba flat in Fair Oaks, CA (kwburl [at] aol.com)
>   3. Re: Sociocracy Domain and Aim (Jerry Koch-Gonzalez)
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> Date: Wed, 13 Nov 2024 16:22:29 -0800
> From: Melanie Mindlin <sassetta [at] mind.net>
> To: cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org
> Subject: [C-L]_ Dues and other expenses
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> Hi Marty,
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> While I hear that many cohousing communities charge based on square footage, 
> we decided that this didn?t make sense since it doesn?t affect usage of 
> common facilities. We are townhouses, and each home is responsible for their 
> own repairs and maintenance.
> 
> We ended up charging a flat rate per household for our main HOA dues which 
> covers the reserves, maintenance and utilities. We have a separate budget we 
> call ?community dues?, and this is charged based on the number of people in 
> the household. Community dues covers parties, childcare, garden expenses, 
> trainings, and the like.  
> 
> Melanie
> Ashland Cohousing
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>> On Nov 13, 2024, at 12:19 PM, cohousing-l-request [at] cohousing.org wrote:
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>> Message: 4
>> Date: Wed, 13 Nov 2024 11:49:17 -0800
>> From: Marty Roberts <martyr [at] sonic.net <mailto:martyr [at] sonic.net>>
>> To: Coho-L <cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org <mailto:cohousing-l [at] 
>> cohousing.org>>
>> Subject: [C-L]_ Dues and other expenses
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>> Wondering if any of you have a different way of charging HOA dues and other 
>> expenses than just straight by household.
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>> Do you make any accommodations for singles vs. families with 2 wage earners? 
>>  Or square footage or number of bedrooms or number of people in the house 
>> using common facilities?
>> 
>> We are taking a look at this.
>> Thanks for any info,
>> Marty at Two Acre Wood in Sebastopol, CA
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> Date: Fri, 15 Nov 2024 09:44:31 +0000
> From: "kwburl [at] aol.com" <kwburl [at] aol.com>
> To: "cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org" <cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org>
> Subject: [C-L]_ OPEN HOUSE Sat: 2br/1ba flat in Fair Oaks, CA
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> This Saturday Nov. 16, from 1-3pm, we are hosting an Open House for a 2 
> br/1ba flat for sale in Fair Oaks Ecohousing in Fair Oaks, CA.  Virtual 
> showings over Zoom are available for interested buyers.  Please visit our 
> webpage for pictures, descriptions, and our community information:   
> FOEH-2br-flat-for-sale<https://www.fairoaksecohousing.org/for-sale-two-bedroom-flat-pc>
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> Message: 3
> Date: Fri, 15 Nov 2024 17:06:34 -0500
> From: Jerry Koch-Gonzalez <jerry [at] sociocracyforall.org>
> To: cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org
> Subject: Re: [C-L]_ Sociocracy Domain and Aim
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> Hello Henry,
> Here is how we hold the aims and domains of these two circles at Cherry
> Hill Cohousing. We use the sociocracy/dynamic governance form of governance.
> 
> *Coordinating Circle*
> Aim: Meeting community needs by coordinating community services in ways
> that are effective, efficient, and transparent.
> Domain: Issues involving multiple Circles; community issues, operations
> and/or policies not delegated to a Work Circle. Delegation of
> responsibilities & authorities to existing or new Circles; effective
> day-to-day management of the community; preparation of Full Circle (whole
> community) meetings (retreats, budget meeting, special meetings);
> confirmation of subcircle leaders and delegates.
> Subcircles: B&G; Member Services; Common House; PALS (Plants, Animals &
> Land Stewardship)
> 
> *Community Life Circle*
> Aim: Supporting connection and well-being of members
> Domain: Policies and activities related to community life in the areas of
> housing, membership, communication, work, finances, play, and interpersonal
> relations.
> Subcircles: Work HUB; Care & Counsel, Fun, Finance, Membership, Governance
> Improvement, Vision/Resilience
> 
> PS: Sociocracy For All is hosting its 4th annual online Sociocracy in
> Intentional Communities Conference: Empowering Our Vision on Saturday,
> November 23. I will be there:
> https://www.sociocracyforall.org/intentional-communities-conference-2024/
> 
> Jerry
> 
> Jerry Koch-Gonzalez
> I offer coaching/consulting <http://www.sociocracyforall.org/coaching>
> To talk to me about sociocracy or NVC, go here:
> https://talktojerry.youcanbook.me
> Sociocracy: Effective Egalitarian Governance.
> Check out our website Sociocracy For All <http://sociocracyforall.org/> and
> join our mailing list <https://www.sociocracyforall.org/newsletter-signup/>.
> 
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>> On Wed, Nov 13, 2024 at 1:38?PM henry henryhirschel.com <
>> henry [at] henryhirschel.com> wrote:
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>> Hello,
>> 
>> My name is Henry Hirschel, and I am a member of the Berkeley Moshav in
>> Berkeley, California. I am part of a group of individuals that is
>> developing the Domain and Aim for the Coordinating Circle and Community
>> Life Circle.
>> 
>> We have had several discussions and are now at the point where we would
>> like to learn how other cohousing communities define their Domain and Aim
>> for these two circles.
>> 
>> It would be extremely helpful if communities are willing to share the
>> Domain and Aim they currently use. Additionally, I would love to have the
>> opportunity to speak with you about the positive aspects and challenges the
>> current structure creates in your community.
>> 
>> Understanding how other communities approach these roles will provide
>> valuable insights and help us refine our own processes. Your input will be
>> instrumental in shaping a cohesive and effective framework for our
>> community.
>> 
>> Thank you for your time and assistance.
>> 
>> Best regards,
>> 
>> Henry
>> _____________________
>> Henry Hirschel
>> 415-850-6361
>> www.linkedin.com/in/henryhirschel
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