Re: Consensus Decision Making | <– Date –> <– Thread –> |
From: Berrins (Berrinsaol.com) | |
Date: Thu, 23 Dec 1999 10:07:37 -0700 (MST) |
In a message dated 12/21/99 6:51:27 PM, gren [at] agora.rdrop.com writes: << Greetings - One of the things I've been increasingly sensitive to in our meetings is what it feels like to be "the cheese" -- as in "the cheese stands alone" -- during a meeting. This can happen when an individual blocks consensus on a "popular" or important decision, and also when someone comes forward with a request of the group to meet their "special" needs (e.g., disabilities, chemical sensitivities, childcare during meetings, different spiritual/non beliefs, etc.). >> I know how you feel, Gretchen, I had to be "the cheese" at our last meeting. The people making the proposal were unwilling to bend, and stated they needed a consensus decision before moving onto the next step of their work. I disagreed, saying we could accept their proposal as a "working" document, but allow ourselves the ability to somehow change or alter it without going through the whole process of reopening a consensus decision. What's ironic is that the proposal I blocked was a set of definitions and processes regarding consensus! Specifically, agreement, standing aside and blocking. As a group we decided to drop the section regarding revisiting consensus decisions, and the proposal did not include anything about how to conduct discussions or facilitation or anything else; those are the next steps that committe will be working on. I blocked because I felt consensus wasn't only necessary, but could conceivalbly "paint us into a corner" regarding any problems we had with this document in the future. In other words, I didn't feel it was in the best interest of the community to consense on this document without any way to nudge or adapt or amend, aside from going through a "revisiting a consensus decision" process (a formal process, you may recall, that doesn't exist yet). Someone eventually came up with a compromise, but not without a lot of hard feelings towards me during the discussions. Which brings us back to Gretchen's point. After a lot of committee work and general meeting discussions, we usually feel the need to "get on with it" and come to a decision. In many circumstances (especially during design and development, which is what we are still doing a lot of) this is necessary. This urge to make a decision results in frustration when a block occurs, especially if discussion after the block doesn't resolve the issue and more so if only one person is doing the blocking. At this point is takes a real committment to listen to the blocker. Few people who block are so strong willed and articulate that they can withstand the antipathy while they consider all the points discussed, organize their thoughts, decide they still disagree and why and then state all that in a way reaches the frustrated. Blocking shouldn't be easy, but it shouldn't be an emotional wringer either or the reason for the block may never get understood by the rest of the group because the blocker is too flustered to think clearly. And that would ruin the chance to hear a unique perspective that could change the proposal. This discussion, however, is incomplete without discussing how to revisit a consensus decision. By the time an actual decision is made, many folks have a lot invested, both in time and emotion, in that decision. The last thing they want to do is to open up the discussion again. But what if that decision turns out to be wrong, or needs tweeking, or affects the community, or even an individual, in some unforeseen way? How can we get folks to let go of their stubbornness long enough to consider changing a difficult decision? A process for revisiting a consensus decision is useless without a comittment from everyone to keep an open mind. I'd love to hear how other communities handle this issue. Thanks..... -Roger
- Consensus Decision Making, (continued)
- Consensus Decision Making Richard L. Kohlhaas, December 20 1999
- Re: Consensus Decision Making Stuart Staniford-Chen, December 20 1999
- RE: Consensus Decision Making Rob Sandelin, December 21 1999
- Re: Consensus Decision Making Gretchen Westlight, December 21 1999
- Re: Consensus Decision Making Berrins, December 23 1999
- Re: Consensus Decision Making Cheryl Charis-Graves, December 23 1999
- RE: Consensus Decision Making Rob Sandelin, December 23 1999
- Re: Consensus Decision Making Bitner/Stevenson, December 23 1999
- Re: Consensus decision making R.N. Johnson, August 11 2008
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