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From: John Greene, Nancy Lowe (greenelowemindspring.com) | |
Date: Sun, 30 Apr 2000 06:24:51 -0600 (MDT) |
I find this thread pretty interesting, both because I've spent a lot of time in coffee shops and because it makes me realize something about my coho expectations. I'm a teacher and I constantly carry around stacks of papers, and I found years ago that I could make myself concentrate much better if I went out to a coffee shop or diner or whatever. As Stuart said, it gives you the feeling of having social contact, even if you're not really. It just makes you feel less isolated, and even though you're not having much fun or having a conversation or anything, at least you're in the vicinity of people who are. Living in cohousing (it's been three years now), I've never had the time or energy to be heavily involved. My wife and our four year-old have been much more engaged in the community. I find that after many intense hours at school, I often don't have much need or ability to interact with others when I get home, and thanks to that eternal stack of papers, I don't have much time, either. So I haven't made real intimate connections, and at times I've felt a bit guilty or inadequate or something because of that. But ultimately I don't really mind it, and what I've realized is that it gives me something similar to the coffee shop experience -- though not as superficial as that, of course. I mean, I'm much more connected to my coho brethren than to anyone in my paper-grading haunts. But it's usually enough for me just to have them *around*. I like just being in the vicinity of so many other people whom I know well, even when I'm not interacting much. I like the feeling and the village atmosphere, and most of the time, that atmosphere is enough for me. I like the sights and sounds of our community outside the window, even when I don't really want to go out and actively engage. It's a much more shallow kind of community, I suppose, than what others want. But it's enough for me right now, and probably all I can handle. I wonder if many others experience cohousing in the same way. I would guess so. JOHN GREENE Lake Claire Coho Atlanta, GA
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coffee shop community?? John Greene, Nancy Lowe, April 30 2000
- Re: coffee shop community?? Lynn Nadeau, April 30 2000
- Re: coffee shop community?? Kelly Green, April 30 2000
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