Re: Oops-should have changed the subject | <– Date –> <– Thread –> |
From: Sharon Villines (sharonsharonvillines.com) | |
Date: Fri, 30 Nov 2001 14:43:01 -0700 (MST) |
> Sorry. THat last post should have had the subject changed. Thanks for thinking of it. I was afraid "Takoma Village has a clean commonhouse" was going down in history as this long thread on every topic that ever got raised in cohousing. I've written 4 responses to the thread on "growing" and "changing" and people getting upset when you tell them (in the nicest way) that something was done wrong. I've erased them all. One thing that I find helpful is to not tell anyone what I think of them or how they make me feel, but to figure out why they are behaving the way they are. That changes my perceptions of them without demanding anything of them and helps me feel differently about whatever they are doing that I don't like. One thing that helps me do this is talking to someone who gets along well with the person. I use their insights and find them much more helpful than a "serious" talk with the person or raised as subject in a group. Certainly more palatable than the evaluation sessions we get into at the end of meetings. But I'm a task oriented person. How do we get this job done the best way with the people present to do it? And if no one wants to do it, how else do we get it done. My feelings are my feelings. I express them but they are my business to deal with. I don't expect other people to work through them for me. Why do people do this? Sharon -- In Washington DC where all roads lead to Casablanca _______________________________________________ Cohousing-L mailing list Cohousing-L [at] cohousing.org Unsubscribe and other info: http://www.communityforum.net/mailman/listinfo/cohousing-l
- Re: Takoma Village Has a Clean Commonhouse!, (continued)
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Re: Takoma Village Has a Clean Commonhouse! Kay Argyle, November 30 2001
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Re: Takoma Village Has a Clean Commonhouse! Michael D, November 30 2001
- Re: Takoma Village Has a Clean Commonhouse! Elizabeth Stevenson, November 30 2001
- Oops-should have changed the subject Elizabeth Stevenson, November 30 2001
- Re: Oops-should have changed the subject Sharon Villines, November 30 2001
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Re: Takoma Village Has a Clean Commonhouse! Michael D, November 30 2001
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Re: Takoma Village Has a Clean Commonhouse! Kay Argyle, November 30 2001
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