Re: Re: [C-L]_Re: Power Struggles After Move-In
From: kathykelly (
Date: Mon, 10 Dec 2001 13:03:05 -0700 (MST)
I'm from Sonora Cohousing and find most general meetings to be teeth-gritting 
affairs. I think of these meetings as the price to be paid for all the great 
out-of-meeting interactions that go on here.

AND, we were brilliant in the way described below during the "talent show" 
following the Thanksgiving leftovers dinner. All of us (except for those rare 
few with real talent) made complete fools of ourselves and had an uproariously 
good time together. My conclusion was: we need more "talent shows" and fewer 

Any ideas for blasting through the meeting sludge but still ensuring an 
acceptable level of "progress/decision making"?

Kathy Kelly
Sonora Cohousing 

cohousing-l [at] wrote:
> > However, it happens when group members get happy with one another.  Not
> necessarily that they agree, but they come together with a mutual sense of
> excitement and eagerness.  The conversation gets unstructured, people
> interrupt freely; they exchange visions, gags, quips, puns; they forget
> time; they smile and make eye contact and perhaps touch; they sing,
> ritualize, dramatize; they brainstorm, freewheel, and avoid hasty criticism
> of ideas.

I would kill for this kind of meeting. I so often feel micromanaged in our
meetings. They are "nice" but not very inspiring and very controlled.
Absolute agendas, time limits, speaking queues. All the things the current
theory says is good process. We get stuff done but I often don't care -- I'm
waiting to be engaged.

We never follow an idea or thought through to its conclusion. Process seems
to be more focused on the mechanics and not on depth of analysis.

In Washington DC where all roads lead to Casablanca

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