Re: Common House Sound Proofing | <– Date –> <– Thread –> |
From: Elizabeth Stevenson (tamgoddessattbi.com) | |
Date: Thu, 17 Oct 2002 10:54:01 -0600 (MDT) |
I think this is great, your circle time. But it was something that was an organic development, not imposed upon the group as a decision, and I think that's where I had trouble. When you try to control behavior with rules, you need to have some sort of consequence of non-compliance or the rule won't really exist. I just don't think consequences are a good match with mealtime enjoyment. -- Liz Stevenson Southside Park Cohousing Sacramento, California tamgoddess [at] attbi.com > From: "Laura Fitch, A.I.A." <lfitch [at] krausfitch.com> > Elizabeth Stevenson wrote: > >> A centering exercise might work in a yoga class, but I don't see it working >> at a common meal, unless, perhaps it's a common meal at a monastery! >> > I'm not sure what is meant by a "centering exercise", but if it is > anything like our "circle" than it CAN work at a common meal. > > Around 6 o'clock folks at Pioneer Valley Cohousing gather in the common > house, sit by the fire, hang out in the hall, check mail, play in the > kids room etc., until the cooks call out "circle time". Then there is a > general movement towards the dining area, and we gather in a circle to > hold hands. It is usually a brief "circle" in which the cooks tell us > what we will be having - what will be on the tables, and what dietary > alternatives are available at the pass-thru. Then there are > announcements (this is my mother visiting from...don't forget the garden > committee meeting tomorrow night...has anyone seen a black sweater...). > Then IF the cooks are so inclined they may choose to close the > "circle" with a quick song, blessing, thank you, etc. (referrals to > deities are frowned on by some, so usually avoided but not prohibited). > Some cooks just want folks to get to the meal while it is hot and keep > the "circle" really short. > > The interesting thing is that, we never had any policy about "circle > time", it was something that the cooks starting doing, it caught on, it > worked, and everyone seemed to like it. The kids were never required to > join in, and usually didn't. That was the part that didn't really work > - they would often be jumping on the furniture right next to the > "circle". At some point I asked a few other parents if they wanted to > join me in requiring our kids to join circle. There was no community > policy - just a family by family decision. If circle worked somewhat > before, it really worked after families pulled their children in and > asked them to join and be quiet. > > It is fabulous to gather together and see each others faces before we > eat. I cannot imagine our community without "circle time" before dinner. > > This is not to say that acoustic treatment is not critical - it is > essential! We used Armstrong "nubby" panels, which I have been told by > an acoustic engineer are the best bang for the buck! _______________________________________________ Cohousing-L mailing list Cohousing-L [at] cohousing.org Unsubscribe and other info: http://www.communityforum.net/mailman/listinfo/cohousing-l
- Re: Common House Sound Proofing, (continued)
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Re: Common House Sound Proofing Elizabeth Stevenson, October 16 2002
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Re: Common House Sound Proofing John Rosevear, October 16 2002
- RE: Common House Sound Proofing Elana Kann, October 16 2002
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Re: Common House Sound Proofing Laura Fitch, A.I.A., October 17 2002
- Re: Common House Sound Proofing Elizabeth Stevenson, October 17 2002
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Re: Common House Sound Proofing John Rosevear, October 16 2002
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RE: Common House Sound Proofing Rob Sandelin, October 17 2002
- Re: Common House Sound Proofing Andrew Burgess, October 17 2002
- Paying for common meals, was: Re: [C-L]_Common House Sound Proofing S. Kashdan, October 17 2002
- Re: Paying for common meals, was: Re: [C-L]_Common House Sound Proofing Kay Argyle, October 18 2002
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Re: Common House Sound Proofing Elizabeth Stevenson, October 16 2002
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