RE: Should individual "sponsorship" be allowed of community | <– Date –> <– Thread –> |
From: Sue Pniewski (SPniewskiHabijax.com) | |
Date: Thu, 25 Sep 2003 13:47:07 -0600 (MDT) |
I understand what you are saying, but I guess what I don't understand is: The things in your hypothetical story: >What I would object to is that other projects would be left undone. If, for >instance, everyone also wanted an arbor for shade, but there was nobody >willing to pay for it out of pocket, and the three poorest families really >wanted it, it would still not get done. Those three families did not get >what was really important to them, because the group never prioritized it, >and they don't have the resources to gift it to the community. What I don't understand is that if nobody donated things, the poorer people still wouldn't get their arbor. So what's the difference? Either way they don't get the arbor, but at least they get a hot tub. Something is better than nothing, but I guess the neighbors who were going to gift the hot tub could just put it in their backyard instead, thereby making everybody beholden to them every time they came over to "borrow" it. We have gifting all the time in my community, which is more closely knit than cohousing per se, and everybody recognises that a gift is a gesture, it doesn't give anybody more power or less compassion, we all understand that I might be afford to buy the big screen TV, but I sure don't have time to mow the lawn an extra time. My gift is no more valuable just becasue some corporation has attached a price tag, than the gift of another member of homemade dolls for the children, who spent 20 hours working on her beautiful creation. (which, BTW, were immensely popular for a while with some members, but others enjoyed more the TV) In my mind the giving of a gift shows caring and love for the receivers, and the acceptance of said gift both honors and responds with love to the givers. ------------------------------------- Susan Pniewski, Esq. -----Original Message----- From: Elizabeth Stevenson [mailto:tamgoddess [at] comcast.net] Sent: Thursday, September 25, 2003 3:19 PM To: cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org Subject: Re: [C-L]_Should individual "sponsorship" be allowed of community Racheli wrote: > Hi Liz, > I guess I'm not sure at this point what "equality" you are > talking about. It's a subtle thing, to be sure. I'm talking about a situation where, over time, a community acquires a number of things and completes a number of projects, both necessary, and optional but desirable. Over time, this same community does NOT complete a number of other projects, all of which it has been agreed are desirable. The difference in what gets accomplished over time is that in this particular fictional community, many of the projects that were purchased or completed were "gifts" from a member or members of the community who decided to not wait for these items to come up to number one on the list of prioritized items. In this way, the members of the community who have more money have more say over what gets accomplished. It doesn't mean that those with less money are ostracized or guilty or anything else except enjoying the gifts as they were meant to be enjoyed. It does mean, however, that their own preferences were given less weight than those of the people with more money. I'm not sure why you've brought this whole guilt/shame angle into the conversation at all, Racheli. I feel that people are bringing a lot of cultural baggage into this discussion that is unnecessarily demeaning about poor people. I know of nobody in my community who is ashamed of being poorer than anyone else here. Let's say a community has decided they want a hot tub. Many people in Southside Park Cohousing would like one, me included. But it's the sort of thing that people who are afraid to spend money really don't like buying, so it gets put down the list every year. If a group got together and purchased a hot tub, we'd all love the hot tub in and of itself. I'd be in it right now, instead of tediously explaining this over and over again. What I would object to is that other projects would be left undone. If, for instance, everyone also wanted an arbor for shade, but there was nobody willing to pay for it out of pocket, and the three poorest families really wanted it, it would still not get done. Those three families did not get what was really important to them, because the group never prioritized it, and they don't have the resources to gift it to the community. Suppose that, eventually, those three families leave the community. They just never felt that they fit in, and that their needs weren't being met. They never told the community that this is how they felt, because they didn't really understand why themselves. But the truth is, they didn't feel as if their opinions mattered as much as others' did. It's not hit-one-over-the-head obvious. It's the chilling effect of subtle discrimination. I'd love to give you specific real examples, but I can't. Our community doesn't buy things in this way, so I don't know for certain what the results would be. All I know is that it's unfair. If everyone in every other cohousing group wants to allow large gifts from members of the community, then that is their choice. -- Liz Stevenson Southside Park Cohousing Sacramento, California tamgoddess [at] comcast.net _______________________________________________ Cohousing-L mailing list Cohousing-L [at] cohousing.org Unsubscribe and other info: http://www.cohousing.org/cohousing-L _______________________________________________ Cohousing-L mailing list Cohousing-L [at] cohousing.org Unsubscribe and other info: http://www.cohousing.org/cohousing-L
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Re: Should individual "sponsorship" be allowed of community Berrins, September 25 2003
- RE: Should individual "sponsorship" be allowed of community Sue Pniewski, September 25 2003
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Re: Should individual "sponsorship" be allowed of community Elizabeth Stevenson, September 25 2003
- Re: Should individual "sponsorship" be allowed of community M.Studer, September 25 2003
- Re: Should individual "sponsorship" be allowed of community Elizabeth Stevenson, September 25 2003
- Should individual "sponsorship" be allowed of community Racheli Gai, September 25 2003
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