|Re: rules for participation||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: TandemWriters (TandemWritersaol.com)|
|Date: Fri, 18 Mar 2005 07:12:48 -0800 (PST)|
I understand how difficult it can be to have a personality that is best satisfied with a "go get'em" approach to life and then feel unappreciated when no one notices how hard I've worked. So many years ago now I decided to keep my efforts private...to evaluate myself and my efforts with blinders on as much as possible when "working" with others. For me giving has become a person endeavor. To serve others is a big part of community to me. Do I enjoy appreciation, sure you bet and when it doesn't come I still can turn to myself for reinforcement. This may be analogous I'm not completely sure, but a few months ago we were stopped at a light when a homeless veteran was canvassing for money. My daughter immediately starting scrambling for the change we keep to give out under these circumstances. She rolled down the window and proudly shared the money with this person. There have been occasions when other adults in the car have warned against this "giving" because it could be a scam or they are just "bumming for money". I explained that charity is a behavior that begins and ends with the giving. If it is a scam that is for that person to take responsibility and bumming for money is NOT an easy job particularly here in South Florida. Giving in whatever forum begins and ends with yourself. If your giving becomes contaminated with worrying whether your getting the raw end of the deal or not, then you've lost some of the innocence that comes with the decision to serve others in the first place. Everyone gives from what they consider to be their perceived strengths and always hope for some kind of reinforcement. Appreciation can satisfy most everyone. If that happens to be all you have to give then give it abundantly. The best I think we can do is to provide opportunities for people to participate and appreciate those that do everyday. Dana Bennett Soon to be in Sharingwood Snohomish, WA
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