Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: RE: tipping point

[Ann Zabaldo (zabaldo]

Thank you, Rob, for your more eloquent writing on this subject.  Much better
expressed and delivered.

Ann Z.


On 5/7/06 2:57 AM, "Rob Sandelin" <floriferous [at] msn.com> wrote:

> Having done a fair number of process workshops and interventions in various
> cohousing groups it is my experience that labels such as jerk, asshole etc.
> are counter productive, they don't define anything useful. I used to teach
> that some people don't have very good skills yet, and that you can hold
> compassion for them while helping them develop more effective group process
> and communications skills. People who are "difficult" generally just need
> some additional training work to understand their impacts on others. But to
> do that you have to focus off of labels and focus on behaviors and impacts
> of behaviors. This is the heart of successful intervention.
>