Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: RE: tipping point

[Sharon Villines (sharon]

On May 7, 2006, at 1:57 AM, Rob Sandelin wrote:

> it is my experience that labels such as jerk, asshole etc.
> are counter productive, they don't define anything useful.

Even more than "not useful," they are terms that will be applied to 
every member of the community by some other member at some point, 
probably monthly. Certainly annually.

For most thinking people, any meaningful experience of community will 
include conflict and frustration, whether it is expressed or ignored. 
Changing the people will not cure that. Only conflict produces change. 
"Conflict" doesn't mean war, it means that 1 does not agree with 2 and 
it is producing "friction," a more descriptive word for the effects of 
conflict.

Sharon Villines

Nothing in all the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and 
conscientious stupidity.
 - Martin Luther King, Jr.