Re: What should I be worried about? | <– Date –> <– Thread –> |
From: Patricia Lautner (lautnerpjpcohousing.org) | |
Date: Wed, 18 Jun 2014 12:08:06 -0700 (PDT) |
I had to laugh at RPD's post about meal preparation because my advise to you is the opposite! (See how different our communities are from each other?) I strongly advise that you set a mandatory meal policy before move in. I like one that says, "participation is mandatory, eating is not." When you go to the conferences and talk to folks, you may learn that the communities who have such a policy seem to have better social relationships as a group then communities whose meal programs are less developed. This is important because, after a strong social bond has been established, making difficult decisions, getting work done, and even addressing conflicts, can be easier. After 9 years of living in cohousing I'm convinced that there is no better way to consistently be social with the community then the common meal. At JPCohousing, we have struggled for 9 years to get a good meal system going and we're far from successful (but getting there.) As one of the founding members of our community, not putting in place a strong mandatory meal program is one of my biggest regrets. Best, Patti Lautner Communitas www.communitasdevelopment.com On Wed, Jun 18, 2014 at 2:31 PM, R Philip Dowds <rpdowds [at] comcast.net> wrote: > > Many or most cohos allow for occasional or variable participation in meals > programs — with the general understanding that the more often you eat, the > more often you cook. Some individuals are quite active in community life, > but just don’t like the common meals. Some cohos report drifting away from > the huge (noisy and chaotic?) 40-person dinners, to more intimate sub-group > meal events of around a dozen people. I think I’d be slow to make communal > dining any more of a mandatory pre-requisite than communal bathing. > > RPD > > On Jun 18, 2014, at 1:37 PM, fergyb2 via Cohousing-L < > cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org> wrote: > > > I would add to that get agreement that all adults will > participate in your meal program before you move in. It's too hard to get > a functioning meal program set up later ... > > _________________________________________________________________ > Cohousing-L mailing list -- Unsubscribe, archives and other info at: > http://www.cohousing.org/cohousing-L/ > > >
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