Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: "The Coho Way"

[Sue STIGLEMAN (sstigleman]

One of the lines of the cowboy singing group Riders in the Sky.  
http://www.ridersinthesky.com

"It may be the easy way, but it's not the cowboy way."  
--sue
 Sue Stigleman sstigleman [at] bellsouth.net 828-989-9373
 

 
      From: R Philip Dowds <rpdowds [at] comcast.net>
 To: Cohousing-L <cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org> 
Cc: "Mary Baker, Solid Communications" <mary [at] solid-communications.com>
 Sent: Saturday, January 23, 2016 3:58 PM
 Subject: Re: [C-L]_ "The Coho Way"
   

Wasn’t there a movie called The Cowboy Way?

RPD

> On Jan 23, 2016, at 3:20 PM, Muriel Kranowski <murielk [at] vt.edu> wrote:
> 
> 
> I'm happy to say I can't recall this, or an equivalent phrase, being said
> in my community. The Coho Way, indeed. It does seem that every community
> develops its own folkways for completely arbitrary reasons, so telling a
> newbie that xyz "isn't the Coho Way" is just a patronizing way of saying,
> "Well, that isn't how we typically handle that."
> 
> On Sat, Jan 23, 2016 at 12:45 PM, Mary Baker, Solid Communications <
> mary [at] solid-communications.com> wrote:
> 
>> 
>> The conflict thread has been very helpful and insightful (I’m writing a
>> workbook on conflict), yet it keeps reminding me of the phenomenon of the
>> mysterious “Coho Way”. So although not directly related to conflict, I
>> thought I’d ask if anyone else is ever befuddled by this moving,
>> ever-changing phrase.
>> 
>> When I first moved into cohousing, I really wanted to fit in so I would
>> frequently ask my newbie-buddy for advice. He would simply say, “That’s not
>> The Coho Way.” Then he went on to mention (again) that the hot tub is
>> clothing optional, and the human body is most beautiful in its naked form.
>> Which I took to be a small clue to The Coho Way.
>> 
>> “Okaaaay. But what IS The Coho Way?”
>> 
>> Other residents also airily referenced “The Coho Way” at times.  I never
>> did get a definition, from anyone. One thing I did notice is that it was
>> never used as a form of praise. (“Yay, you adhered to The Coho Way! You may
>> now pass to the next level!”) It was always a form of chastisement. It
>> reminds me very much of the game Mao. And of course, we do not discuss the
>> rules of Mao.
>> 
>> Has anyone else found this to be an extremely awkward learning curve with
>> a lot of arbitrary obstacles?
>> 
>> Mary
>> 
>> PS. I’m writing a short story called “The Coho Way”. My first piece of
>> fiction in many years. It’s in the horror genre—several bodies, composted
>> of course. Bones are burned in an old pottery kiln, the bone meal is dug
>> into the garden and fed to the chickens. Very ecologically conscious.
>> 
>> 
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