Re: Unseen Bullying Epidemic in Senior Communities - with hot link | <– Date –> <– Thread –> |
From: Alan O (adoecosyahoo.com) | |
Date: Wed, 16 May 2018 07:02:06 -0700 (PDT) |
Ann - I agree and I think that the marketing and public relations about senior cohousing tends to perpetuate the stereotype of the sweet little old lady and chivalrous man who is the life of community parties. When senior communities form, it is critically important for founders to figure out who the "power and control" people are before hand. Unless of course, all the founders are bullies! At the "Dealing with Diverse Personalities" retreat I led in Arcosanti, AZ a couple years ago, we spent quite a bit of time on this topic. Alan O. ***************************************************** Alan O'Hashi Have Camera - Will Travel www.bouldercomedia.com 303-910-5782 www.wyocomedia.com 307-247-1910 ****************************************************** From: Ann Zabaldo <zabaldo [at] earthlink.net> To: Alan O'Hashi <adoecos [at] yahoo.com>; cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org Sent: Wednesday, May 16, 2018 7:39 AM Subject: Re: [C-L]_ Unseen Bullying Epidemic in Senior Communities - with hot link Hello Alan and all — Why do you find this surprising? Bullies age and get old just like everyone else. We have a 72 yr old one in the White House. What is maybe a surprise is our expectation that people will become sweeter and gentler as they age. Maybe because we think aging bullies and aggressive people will be softened by the knowledge that they are moving into another dimension in their lives? I think it’s the opposite. My personal experience is that as people age they become even more of the person they are. A gentle person is a gentle person when they pass the magic 65+. And a cantankerous person gets crankier. (Of course, there ARE exceptions to both scenarios e.g. Ebenezer Scrooge comes to mind …) Crimes and violence and abuse against the elderly is a major problem in the U.S. The Federal gov’t and local municipalities devote resources to combat this. Maybe one of the benefits of living in a cohousing community as we age is that the community can exercise intervention among members to keep this kind of behavior at bay. Best -- Ann Zabaldo Takoma Village Cohousing Washington, DC Principal, Cohousing Collaborative, LLC Falls Church, VA 202.546.4654 As long as you have two or fewer … your ducks are always in a row. The Covert Comic On May 16, 2018, at 9:11 AM, Alan O'Hashi via Cohousing-L <cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org> wrote: Cohousers - Let's try this again. I was in the common house today and one of my neighbors pointed out an interesting article on the bulletin board. It was an AP story about the unseen bullying epidemic in senior communities. I've been trying to claw my way to the bottom, and there are old people still trying to claw their ways to the top at the expense of their neighbors. I was surprised to read that one out of five seniors are the targets of bullying. Having just received my Silver Sneakers card, I'll think about my five closest neighbors and if they seem okay, it must be me! Here's the link ... https://www.nytimes.com/aponline/2018/05/12/us/ap-us-senior-citizens-bullying.html Thx Alan O. ******************************************* Alan O'Hashi - ECOS EnviroCultural Organization Systems http://www.alanohashi.com/ecos Colorado 303-910-5782 Wyoming 307-274-1910 Nebraska 402-327-1652 ******************************************* _________________________________________________________________ Cohousing-L mailing list -- Unsubscribe, archives and other info at: http://l.cohousing.org/info
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Unseen Bullying Epidemic in Senior Communities - with hot link Alan O'Hashi, May 16 2018
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Re: Unseen Bullying Epidemic in Senior Communities - with hot link Ann Zabaldo, May 16 2018
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Re: Unseen Bullying Epidemic in Senior Communities - with hot link Ann Zabaldo, May 16 2018
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