Re: Unseen Bullying Epidemic in Senior Communities - with hot link | <– Date –> <– Thread –> |
From: Alan O (adoecosyahoo.com) | |
Date: Wed, 16 May 2018 08:11:34 -0700 (PDT) |
Dick - I temper your comment that bullies tend to stay away from cohousing. I don't know about you, but there are untold stories of cohousing power and control conflicts between / among neighbors. The cohousing conferences are rife with workshops, retreats and classes on conflict resolution and non-violent communication. Keep in mind that bullying isn't just punching and pushing, it's also emotional abuse. I also would say, that when vetting community members, be aware that as time passes, people have learned how to mask their undesirable personality traits. I previously worked in domestic violence prevention and can spot a bully a mile away. ThxAlan O. ***************************************************** Alan O'Hashi Have Camera - Will Travel www.bouldercomedia.com 303-910-5782 www.wyocomedia.com 307-247-1910 ****************************************************** From: Dick Margulis <dick [at] dmargulis.com> To: cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org; Ann Zabaldo <zabaldo [at] earthlink.net>; Alan O'Hashi <adoecos [at] yahoo.com> Sent: Wednesday, May 16, 2018 8:53 AM Subject: Re: [C-L]_ Unseen Bullying Epidemic in Senior Communities - with hot link On 5/16/2018 9:39 AM, Ann Zabaldo wrote: > What is maybe a surprise is our expectation that people will become sweeter > and gentler as they age. And with this, a story. Many years ago, I lived in a small town where one of the highlights of the year was the firemen's field days, a three-day orgy of beer, greasy food, and polka. One year, when my kids were small, my parents visited that weekend. We went to the parade, of course. And afterward, we went into the exhibitor tent, where one of the local churches had an ice cream booth. My dad, who until he was deep into his dementia could add a column of numbers in his head faster than an accountant could with an adding machine, offered to treat. The nice church lady had to write down the price of everything the six of us ordered and laboriously calculate the sum by hand and aloud, thirty-write-down-zero-carry-the-three style. As we walked away, my dad shook his head. "It's amazing someone can live to that age and never learn to add," he said. "No," I countered. "People don't get smarter as they age. What's amazing is that people that slow survive to old age at all." Okay, that was mean, and in retrospect I'm sorry I said it. I'm nicer now. But it's just another aspect of Ann's point: people don't change much as they age, except physically. The saving grace of cohousing in this regard is that bullies don't tend to be attracted to cohousing in the first place, so dealing with them as they age may be less of a problem than in the sorts of institutions featured in the article. Dick Margulis Rocky Corner Bethany CT Construction is underway: rockycorner.org/blog/
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Re: Unseen Bullying Epidemic in Senior Communities - with hot link Ann Zabaldo, May 16 2018
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Re: Unseen Bullying Epidemic in Senior Communities - with hot link Alan O, May 16 2018
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Re: Unseen Bullying Epidemic in Senior Communities - with hot link Dick Margulis, May 16 2018
- Re: Unseen Bullying Epidemic in Senior Communities - with hot link Alan O, May 16 2018
- Re: Unseen Bullying Epidemic in Senior Communities - with hot link Nancy Baughman Csuti, May 16 2018
- Re: Unseen Bullying Epidemic in Senior Communities - with hot link Elizabeth Magill, May 16 2018
- Re: Unseen Bullying Epidemic in Senior Communities - with hot link Dick Margulis, May 16 2018
- Re: Unseen Bullying Epidemic in Senior Communities - with hot link Alan O'Hashi, May 16 2018
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Re: Unseen Bullying Epidemic in Senior Communities - with hot link Alan O, May 16 2018
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Re: Unseen Bullying Epidemic in Senior Communities - with hot link Ann Zabaldo, May 16 2018
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