Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: Secondary tensions in a conflict situation?

[Elizabeth Magill (pastorlizm]

We have hired Duke Duchscherer to do a restorative circle with us, and to
begin to teach us the technique.
https://www.linkedin.com/in/duke-duchscherer-06679916/

Essentially, each person meets ahead with Duke, then as a community we
where we are with relation to the conflict, and then ask what we are going
to do afterward. We will have the third part, where we follow upon what we
said we'd do, this coming weekend.

The key is that each person speaks to another individual, and they repeat
back what they heard, hopefully getting at the underlying emotions and
feelings.

We do a process workshop of some sort about every other year, and all have
helped us, many were very good. This one was the best thing since sliced
bread.

Directly to your question yes, and over the years we've just ignored it.
This restorative circle did not address the inter-household conflict, only
the intra-household impact.


-Liz
(The Rev. Dr.) Elizabeth Mae Magill
Pastor, Ashburnham Community Church
Minister to the Affiliates, Ecclesia Ministries
www.elizabethmaemagill.com
508-450-0431


On Thu, May 29, 2025 at 4:20 PM David Heimann <heimann.david [at] gmail.com>
wrote:

> Hello Everyone,
>
> Here's a question that our Community Life Committee is facing right now.  I
> and the rest of our committee would greatly appreciate any thoughts you may
> have on this!
>
>
> "Has your community had a conflict within a household that has created
> secondary tensions among other residents not directly involved, and if so
> how did you deal with these indirect but troubling emotional issues?"
>
> Thanks much,
>
> David Heimann
> Community Life Committee
> Jamaica Plain Cohousing
> Boston, MA
>
> >
> >
> >
> >
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