Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: Sexuality and CoHousing

[Catherine Kehl (tylik]

Thinking back, I don't remember all that much discussion of sexual issues
in the cohousing group that I was going to move into at all.  And yet to
me that seems to be an important undercurrent in any community -- people
need to at least have compatible if not similar sexual mores.  I know 
that in the community I was involved with there are now several teenagers 
whose emerging sexuality may now bring at least part of that matter out 
in the open. 

But the question of teenagers is a very specific one.  The problems of
lovers taken in or out of the group has already been raised... what about 
differing sexual practices?  My experiences with the West Seattle group 
were that sexual orientation was not a problem at all -- but how about, 
say, non-monogamy?  

                                Catherine


On Sun, 28 Aug 1994 BPaiss [at] aol.com wrote:

> So far there has been no proposal to discuss this at the National CoHousing
> Conference.  Anyone interested?
> 
> The experience at Nyland has been very limited with regard to issues of
> sexuality within the community.  The most interesting relationship trend I
> noticed has been the the fact that the few couples who have separated during
> the 5 or so years Nyland has been in the making have tended to move into
> another community members basement or loft instead of leaving the community.
>  This was for the most part done to stay ay Nyland and be near their
> children.  I would be very interested to hear of other CoHousing communities
> experiences related to this.
> 
> Bill
> 
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