Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: Compromise

[Judy (BAXTER%EPIHUB]

Well, I'm back from vacation.  Am busy busy busy, and trying to skim about 180
new messages from this list!! I wish I had more time to chat.

Till Houtermans <tillhout [at] ocf.Berkeley.EDU> asked about compromise (sept 
19). I
don't think about it that way - I tell people that I don't think cohousing
would suit people who aren't somewhat flexible/adaptable.  If you are involved
in doing anything with others, you adjust somewhat to their needs and point of
view, unless they are all your clones,  it is just a matter of degree.  It's
true that adjusting in some areas is more difficult than in others  (neatness
of common areas is a complex one, in my experience), but I guess I think about
flexibility.  I have certainly made adjustments in living at MOCOCO, but I
guess I'm fairly flexible.  And have made some compromises (like eating dinner
earlier to accomodate some of the kids).  But I don't have to eat with the
group at any one time - and that's one of the things I came to Cohousing for. 

                Judy
Judy Baxter, Monterey Cohousing Community, (MoCoCo)
Twin Cities Area, Minneapolis/St.Paul Minnesota
e-mail: baxter [at] epivax.epi.umn.edu