Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: Rules vs No Rules

[Berrins (Berrins]

In a message dated 8/15/2000 11:45:32 AM, sharonvillines [at] prodigy.net 
writes:

<< > All human beings who are interacting with each other have rules for their
> relating.  The only question is whether the rules are overt or covert.
> 
> If the rule is no rules, that's still a rule.

Exactly. And covert rules establish dictatorships much more often than overt
rules.

Sharon. >>


"Covert" rules also generate a lot of friction when some folks don't follow 
what others thought were rules.  You don't have to create a written rule to 
solve every disagreement, but if you notice some trends, then maybe you need 
to come up with some rules, or at least some guidelines.

        -Roger