Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: Rules vs No Rules

[Sharon Villines (sharonvillines]

on 8/18/00 12:29 AM, Berrins [at] aol.com at Berrins [at] aol.com wrote:

> "Covert" rules also generate a lot of friction when some folks don't follow
> what others thought were rules.  You don't have to create a written rule to
> solve every disagreement, but if you notice some trends, then maybe you need
> to come up with some rules, or at least some guidelines.

This is the number one issue for me in groups. I distrust unwritten rules.
Many people value them, as if having covert rules is a higher value than
overt rules. I feel as if I'm missing the gene that allows people to feel
comfortable living within invisible, iron boundaries.

Part of this comes from having moved 36 times before I was 12 and many, many
times after that. 

Sharon
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Sharon Villines
Takoma Village Cohousing, Washington, DC
http://www.takomavillage.org