Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: Confidentiality and conflict

[Robyn Williams (pov]

Hi Eileen

Sounds like you're feeling the squeeze at the moment.  My comments are 'rule
of thumb' which is all I can offer without detail.

> The first is appropriate communication of information
> to the entire group.

Has the group given the person/committee a mandate to withhold information?
If not, then let it flow.  If the info can cause 'conflict, confusion and
uncertainty' then all the more reason for those involved to be involved.
Make sure there's a good facilitator on deck that day.

> The second aspect of this problem is a situation where I take exception to
> the actions of a member, who is acting on the group's behalf, therefore,
on
> my behalf, and I communicate my opinion in a general forum

It's best to approach the individual first.  This makes it less threatening
and gives you a chance to understand their rationale.  And she/he, your
concern.  You can rest assured that the person believes they're doing the
best thing possible. You may feel more comfortable to have a third, more
neutral person present to support you both.  If you can reach an
understanding then recommendations for change can be taken to the larger
group in a united manner.  If you can't resolve the issue with the person,
then you take it to a broader forum.

Regards
Robyn Williams
Pinakarri Community
Fremantle, Western Australia




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