Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: Maintaining Momentum

[Sharon Villines (sharon]

> << - How do you maintain momentum when it seems like your goal is *so* far
> away?  :) >>

Perhaps you need to rethink your plans/wants and see how to make it move
closer. What is holding you back? What if you let that go?

What if your goal became "to be living in cohousing in two years"?

What would it take to do that?

Looking at it this way may get you there in three years. Or to combine this
goal with another recent thread, what if your interim goal became to have
land with a building of some sort that serve as a commonhouse now while you
are still designing and building? Or convert someone's two car garage into
commonspace? Or buy a house together that can be used and renovated for sale
later building a nest egg for the project.

Suggestions to "have fun" together wouldn't do it for me. I need a community
like an extended family -- the relationships and the just being there. When
someone says have fun together or have more pot lucks or ... I would turn
off completely. That isn't what I need in my life. My fun is working on a
project that will benefit everyone and build common bonds.

I like it when I know other people are having fun at a party. I love
watching the preparations and dropping in to see how things are going. But
if parties and pot lucks are the precondition to belonging to a group, I
wouldn't belong. 

Cohousing at its root is about housing -- in all the dimensions that implies
-- home, hearth, sustenance, well being, and most of all, the place where
you belong.

I would go for the pied-a-terre.

Sharon
-- 
Sharon Villines
Takoma Village Cohousing, Washington DC
http://www.takomavillage.org


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