Cohousing-L Mailing List: Lesbians and gays in cohousing - Patee

[Fred H Olson (fholson]

christine pattee, greater hartford cohousing, C2pattee [at] aol.com
is the author of the message below. 
It was posted by Fred the Cohousing-L list manager <fholson [at] cohousing.org> 

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i obviously know schmatz about non-monogamy in today's social circles.  this 
discussion is the first time i've even heard the term "poly".  i was coming 
from the perspective of the early seventies, mostly the new york city scene, 
where 'non-monogamy' became one of the imperatives of the just-barely-out-of 
the-closet lesbian/feminist movement.  in practice, it meant that those women 
who wanted/were able to find multiple partners, did so - and did it without 
regard for anyone else's (like current partners) feelings.

from the  discussion on this list, it seems like what ever folks want to do 
privately, in whatever multiples, is fine in cohousing, and i'm all for that 
(as long as it doesn't scare the horses :-)  ).

christine pattee, greater hartford cohousing

> Message: 10
> Date: Wed, 06 Feb 2002 18:37:38 -0500
> To: cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org
> From: "Sara A." <mabonwy [at] mindspring.com>
> Subject: Re: [C-L]_Lesbians and gays in cohousing -- Pattee
> Reply-To: cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org
> 
> At 06:22 PM 2/6/02, you wrote:
> >Christine Pattee wrote:
> > > My sense is that gay people fit in fine (and that a non-monogamous 
> couple
> > > of any gender would be a problem in most social circles).
> 
> 
> My experience is that the second part of the above just isn't 
> true.  Real-life poly couples either tend to hang in social circles where 
> it's accepted, or don't make a big deal about it; you may know them for 
> years before you know they have an open relationship, and you may NEVER 
> know it unless you become personally involved.
> 
> Sara
> 


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