Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: conflict resolution process

[Sharon Villines (sharon]

> Our community has no process for handling conflicts or grievances. We
> are in a spaghetti of a mess right now and need a process. I looked
> up conflict resolution in the archives, but kept running into
> messages that were no longer available. Could I please get processes
> from other groups or resources.

I don't know how big your spaghetti mess is but if it involves many people I
would recommend a trained (outside) facilitator.

If it involves two or three parties, a good process is that each of the
parties chooses a person to serve as their mediator. These mediators choose
another person that they are all comfortable with. This group sorts out the
issues and attempts to come up with a resolution that the disputing parties
are happy with.

I've used this in church groups (pastor and board), faculty review
processes, union negotiations, etc. It is a very simple process. Each person
has a mediator they trust who understands their issues. The introduction of
less face-to-face between the disputing parties calms the emotions of the
situation. And the presence of a person chosen by the mediators, adds
another level of objectivity and the mediators have someone to help them
with issues also.

Sharon
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Sharon Villines
Takoma Village Cohousing, Washington DC
http://www.takomavillage.org


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