Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: Conflict Resolution -- Avoiders

[Sharon Villines (sharon]

> Noticing participation patterns is one of the easy first steps you can take
> to diagnose this. Is Jane not involved because she is avoiding a conflict?
> Having an empathetic person to personally dialogue with can move a conflict
> avoider into a process. But, this is a lot like personal therapy, and is
> often WAY more than cohousers are willing to do. In a small community, with
> a more intense focus, this kind of work is natural. In cohousing, it is
> unnatural and I have seldom seen it done.

Not very encouraging if 50% of your people are avoiders. Perhaps this should
be addressed before move-in?

Sharon
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Sharon Villines
Takoma Village Cohousing, Washington DC
http://www.takomavillage.org


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