Re: Managing Outbursts in Meetings
From: Eris Weaver (eriswsonic.net)
Date: Tue, 16 Apr 2002 08:18:01 -0600 (MDT)
I have been watching this thread with interest.  I grew up in a family of
slappers and screamers, and have a fairly high tolerance for outbursts.  In
fact, I get bored if things are TOO calm and I sometimes don't TRUST people
who are too calm.  I tend to p*ss more "delicate" people off with my own
straightforward (some would say abrasive/aggressive) conversational style.

This isn't to say that I am an oafish boor who is always too loud; I work in
a public service/management position and am also a damn good  group
facilitator.

But, as Rob and others have pointed out, people have very different comfort
levels with different conversational styles. Personally I don't think the
goal is to never HAVE outbursts, but to use them constructively.  (I, for
one, would be uncomfortable with the process that Lynn suggests; I would
feel, I don't know, stifled isn't exactly the right word.  Like they were
trying to shut me up/censor me/ "disappear" me.) I have been both the
outburster as well as the outburst recipient.  In many cases the ways that
the group have dealt with, learned and grown from these incidents have been
very positive.

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Eris Weaver                                erisw [at] sonic.net
SoCoHo
http://www.sonic.net/~erisw/socoho.html
Sonoma County, Northern California

where we FINALLY closed on our land (huzzah!) and the bulldozers should be
rollin' in June!

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