Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: Managing Outbursts in Meetings

[Sheila Braun (sheila.braun]

How much real intimacy can a group have that is so guarded?

Sheila

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Sent: Saturday, April 13, 2002 9:51 PM
Subject: Re: [C-L]_Managing Outbursts in Meetings


I think Lynn's idea is GREAT.  Just getting actively listened to, if there's
someone with the skills to do it, is a great diffuser.  Linda Scott,
Cascadia Commons Cohousing, Portland, OR


In a message dated 4/13/2002 4:02:19 PM Pacific Daylight Time,
welcome [at] olympus.net writes:



One idea I have is that when someone has an up-welling of such an
emotional commentary, they signal their distress (waving hands in air,
like Stop! Stop!) and choose someone to step outside with them, hear
their venting, and then return to the group with them (or without) and
"translate" the concern back to the group, minus the emotional overlay.
"Help! I need a translator!"

This seems like it could satisfy the vent-er's need to immediately
unburden themselves, get the essence of their concern heard, and spare
all concerned a certain embarrassment and reverberation.

Has any group tried this, or an alternative, in such cases? I emphasize
that this is exceptional, in our group, but we'd be better off with a
plan. Ideas?



Lynn Nadeau, RoseWind Cohousing
Port Townsend Washington (Victorian seaport, music, art, nature)
http://www.rosewind.org
http://www.ptguide.com

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