Cohousing-L Mailing List: conflict vocabulary (from Top 3 Conflict Issues)

[Robyn (pov]

RE: The discussion is on conflict sources (see above), as reflected in
the expression "versus".

- The message that I read that initiated this thread (for me) was
broader:
"Is there a convenient list of the top conflict issues in cohousing, and
ways to head off the potentially damaging effects?" (T.R. Ruddick,
Dayton Cohousing, 22 May)

I agree that the listed issues are often triggers for conflict, and I'm
interested in ways to minimise the damaging effects. One way is how we
approach conflict, to discuss it or resolve it. Reframing the presenting
issue creates a different context for the apparent conflict:
Vegetarians vs carnivores, or how can we accommodate the diversity of
eating preferences, what concerns do we share, and where do they
diverge? ....etc. Reframimg the issue is helpful, and then using our
imaginations to find effective ways of creating the future together,
hopefully transforming the conflict.

I think the presentation of polarised positions, as common as it is, is
an unfortunate habit for which there are alternatives that need to be
practised.  

Cheers
Robyn Williams
Pinakarri Community
Fremantle, Western Australia


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