Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: CH use rules -

[Wayne Tyson (landrest]

Tamara and CoHo:

Is it still pretty good parenting practice to not throw out the baby with 
the bathwater? Seriously, my participation in this discussion began with a 
suggestion that "lightening up" might be an alternative worthy of 
consideration. At what point does "parenting philosophy" become 
paternalistic? How is the transition to adulthood (a rarer and rarer 
phenomenon these days, especially amongst certain generations) handled by a 
good parent? What are the elements of maturity?

WT


----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Tamara Maher" <tamara_law [at] comcast.net>
To: <cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org>
Sent: Tuesday, May 10, 2011 11:09 PM
Subject: [C-L]_ CH use rules -


> I am pretty new to cohousing, but I'm partial to the school of thought 
> that
> a few clear rules are a help to the community.  They help set up
> expectations, and are a great opportunity to have a meaningful discussion
> about what a community wants to see in terms of work commitments vs. 
> money.
>
> The problem is, folks are so "rule-shy" that they won't even allow a
> discussion of this topic. Wouldn't it be better to have a conversation so
> everyone really understands the expectations?
> (This all goes back to my parenting philosophy: have clear expectations 
> and
> consequences, and then your kids can make their own decisions based on 
> their
> tolerance for the consequences.  Worked great for me. . .)
> Tammy
>
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