Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: CH use rules -

[Wayne Tyson (landrest]

Karen and CoHo:

How much tolerance of diversity is tolerable?

WT


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> Wayne:
>
> For some these are rules you listed...for others its expectations clear 
> and
> defined...for others, it puts content in what it means to be a neighbor, a
> good Samaritan, loving friend. Its the balance of form and human freedom.
> Its a balance between individual freedoms living amongst other with
> individual freedoms that may differ and at times may cause conflicts 
> because
> of differences.  Not tyranny. Love and mutual respect isn't coercion. Its 
> a
> free choice to live in community.  Isn't that why we desire to live in
> community? Not necessary even feeling good about oneself for doing good.
> Love is: "patient and kind; not jealous or boastful; not arrogant or
> rude...does not insist on its own way; is not irritable or resentful; does
> not rejoice at wrong, but in the right. Love bears all things, believes 
> all
> things, hopes all things, endures all things." Isn't that the ideal we
> strive on a practical level in our relationships.
>
> Of course no one is perfect nor do we live in a perfect world; so there is
> narcissistic tendencies in us all. I got the sense that what you listed
> below; is all about loving your neighbor? You gave content, practical
> examples to it.
>
> I also thought Tammy post Parenting is a great example.
>    "This all goes back to my parenting philosophy: have clear expectations
> and
>    consequences, and then your kids can make their own decisions based on
> their
>    tolerance for the consequences. "
>    Tammy
>
> Karen
> Anthony Fl
> in process of downsizing into CoHo community
>
>
> Wayne wrote:
> "but among the prevalent shared values was (1) courtesy. When one did
> something for someone else, one
> felt better about one's self. Except for maybe the town bully, almost no 
> one
> felt elevated when one failed to extend courtesies, such as
>
> (2) holding doors open for others
> (3) taking care of someone else's chores when they were unable,
> (4) loaning possessions to those who didn't have needed items
> (5) stopping for someone crossing the street, which happened frequently in
> the absence of a
> pedestrian law, and the like.
>
> There is something subtly disrespectful implied by posting rules; it 
> implies
> that the poster is in a superior position in an hierarchy of coercion and
> the subject is inferior, in need of instruction from superiors who presume
> the worst about their subjects, rather than the best."
>
> WT
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