Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: Communication Social and Anti-social?

[Wayne Tyson (landrest]

Kay and CoHo:

My motto is "Don't manipulate--and don't be manipulated."

Neutrality is not nasty; it is only disappointing to the manipulator.


WT

PS: Brevity is the soul of wit. I agree that things got too convoluted.

"The suspension of judgment is the highest exercise in intellectual 
discipline." --Raymond M. Gilmore

----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Kay Argyle" <Kay.Argyle [at] utah.edu>
To: "'Cohousing-L'" <cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org>
Sent: Thursday, May 19, 2011 3:52 PM
Subject: Re: [C-L]_ Communication Social and Anti-social?


> "... anti-social communication occurs when you don't attend to the desire 
> of
> a group to stay on their topic."
>
> Please speak for yourself. Claiming to speak for a group is a manipulative
> technique.
>
> The proposal John asked for feedback on had a linkage between common house
> usage and participation that is (in my 13 years' observation of cohousing)
> unusual. The ensuing discussion about the place and efficacy of rules and
> requirements in community would have been better for an early change in
> subject line (mea culpa among others; sorry, kindly moderator); 
> nonetheless,
> it was not off-topic for the list itself (as witness many similar threads 
> in
> the archives), and obviously others besides Wayne found it of interest.
>
> "Less please."
>
> I will agree that Wayne might communicate his ideas better if he could 
> make
> them more concise. It's a skill I have struggled to acquire myself. On the
> other hand, asking him to "please stop taking up so much space on this
> forum" seems excessive. His right to participate is equal to yours. You
> don't need to read his messages if you don't want to. Is your delete key
> broken?
>
> Kay Argyle
> Wasatch Commons
>
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