Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: Re conflict in cohousing

[Diana Leafe Christian Webinars (dianaleafechristianwebinars]

> I appreciate Liz Magill's recommending my class on conflict in
> communities. And I agree with her advice that when someone says or does
> something you don't like, to speak up and let them know -- using your best
> communication skills of course!
>
> The class Liz mentioned is "Working Effectively with Three Kinds of
> Community Conflict." While most community conflicts mau look like simple
> interpersonal conflict, in my experience there are also two other kinds:
> "structural conflict" (like when when a group doesn't have a clear policy
> (for example, on agendas, proposals, or minutes, or how committees and
> teams are managed), and conflict arising from what I call "especially
> challenging behaviors" in my recent *Communities* magazine article
> series. Either of these tend to trigger interpersonal conflict as well,
> making this combined conflict really hard for a group to resolve. In my
> class I share practical, workable solutions that various communities have
> used to successfully resolve or contain each kind of conflict. The next
> class (now 7 weeks, not 5 weeks) is Thursday evenings starting April 17.
> Here's a link to more information:
> https://www.schoolofintegratedliving.org/working-effectively-with-community-conflict/
>
> To give a sense of the class, here's a link to slide decks for three of
> the many slideshows in the class: You'll see "Three Kinds of Community
> Conflict," "Reducing Structural Conflict -- Managing Visitors to Your
> Committee or Team," and "Reducing Structural Conflict -- Member Surveys,
> Sounding-Board Meetings, and Personal Interviews."
> https://drive.google.com/drive/u/0/folders.1PUTbdgxKU7-g2GhFLGpQ32qud25Qmu89
> (If this link doesn't work please email me at diana [at] ic.org and I'll send
> you link directly in an email.)
>
> And here's a link to all eight articles in the *Communities* magazine
> series: https://www.gen-us.net/dlc/
>
> My next five-week Sociocracy class, Sociocracy for Communities, Part One,
> is Saturday middays starting January 4. It covers three enjoyable,
> effective Sociocracy processes: Proposal-Forming (which cohousing
> communities using consensus can use and benefit from too!), Consent
> Decision-Making, and Organizing Effective Meetings. Here's the link to more
> information:
> https://www.schoolofintegratedliving.org/sociocracy-for-communitis-part-one/
> Sociocracy for Communities, Part Two, starting Feb 22, covers the
> Sociocracy processes Selecting People for Roles, Role-Improvement Feedback,
> Consenting to Circle Members, and the Circle Structure. It's also Saturday
> middays.
>
> All good wishes,
> Diana Leafe Christian
>