Cohousing-L Mailing List: Fwd: Re conflict in cohousing

[Diana Leafe Christian Webinars (dianaleafechristianwebinars]

I appreciate Liz Magill's recommending my class on conflict in communities.
And I agree with her advice that when someone says or does something you
don't like, to speak up and let them know -- using your best communication
skills of course!

The class Liz mentioned is "Working Effectively with Three Kinds of
Community Conflict." While most community conflicts mau look like simple
interpersonal conflict, in my experience there are also two other kinds:
"structural conflict" (like when when a group doesn't have a clear policy
(for example, on agendas, proposals, or minutes, or how committees and
teams are managed), and conflict arising from what I call "especially
challenging behaviors" in my recent *Communities* magazine article series.
Either of these tend to trigger interpersonal conflict as well, making this
combined conflict really hard for a group to resolve. In my class I share
practical, workable solutions that various communities have used to
successfully resolve or contain each kind of conflict. The next class (now
7 weeks, not 5 weeks) is Thursday evenings starting April 17. Here's a link
to more information:
https://www.schoolofintegratedliving.org/working-effectively-with-community-conflict/

To give a sense of the class, here's a link to slide decks for three of the
many slideshows in the class: You'll see "Three Kinds of Community
Conflict," "Reducing Structural Conflict -- Managing Visitors to Your
Committee or Team," and "Reducing Structural Conflict -- Member Surveys,
Sounding-Board Meetings, and Personal Interviews."
https://drive.google.com/drive/u/0/folders.1PUTbdgxKU7-g2GhFLGpQ32qud25Qmu89
(If this link doesn't work please email me at diana [at] ic.org and I'll send
you link directly in an email.)

And here's a link to all eight articles in the *Communities* magazine
series: https://www.gen-us.net/dlc/

My next five-week Sociocracy class, Sociocracy for Communities, Part One,
is Saturday middays starting January 4. It covers three enjoyable,
effective Sociocracy processes: Proposal-Forming (which cohousing
communities using consensus can use and benefit from too!), Consent
Decision-Making, and Organizing Effective Meetings. Here's the link to more
information:
https://www.schoolofintegratedliving.org/sociocracy-for-communitis-part-one/
Sociocracy for Communities, Part Two, starting Feb 22, covers the
Sociocracy processes Selecting People for Roles, Role-Improvement Feedback,
Consenting to Circle Members, and the Circle Structure. It's also Saturday
middays.

All good wishes,
Diana Leafe Christian