RE: Diversity and Values | <– Date –> <– Thread –> |
From: Buzz Burrell (72253.2101compuserve.com) | |
Date: Mon, 17 Apr 95 08:40 CDT |
This is a wonderful paradox! Rob S said: "I would recommend as a group forms, to create a vision statement which lays out your goals and any important values and make everyone who joins read and accept those, or get the whole group to modify it together." Mike M said: "I agree people in coho groups should share *some* values -- but only the basics, those values that are essential to achieving enough cohesiveness to launch the community." The paradox is that without common values cohousing just isn't going to work well (as Rob explains in detail), while on the other hand, if everyone has the same values, we are validating intolerance and are going to have a hard time creating any diversity, which is another goal. They are somewhat at odds with each other. My thoughts are these: 1. Rob's statement "...it is a good idea to identify major values of the group EARLY in the process and communicate those values clearly so that people who join later know about and can tolerate or agree with those values" is a sentance that I think should be required reading for every cohousing group. The CoHousing book should put a warning on the first page saying "do not proceed until you do this". So much time is spent on "designing the common house" or "land search", but all those things are details compared with establishing common values. Carolines Estes, renowned group facilitator, national instructor in the consensus method of decision making, and major egalitarian advocate, states unequivicaly: If you do not have a common vision, never try to make decisions consensually. I've seen groups who have skipped this step, and it is an almost scary sight to see; so much good energy at risk. 2. However, in the parlance of personal or group process or facilitation, many of the "values" Rob uses as examples are not values, but are considered "decisions" or "opinions". This is a subtle but important distinction. To term every opinion one has as a "personal value" would make discussions loaded with difficult to deal with energy. For example, "considering the earth sacred" would be a personal value, but "wanting to have a group compost pile" is not a value, it is a desire, opinion, or personal decision. It may be derived from a strong personal value, but is quite different, and thus should be available for compromise, discussion, and change. This is significant because people with the same values can have completely different opinions based on them. One shouldn't change one's core values, but one certainly should be able to change one's opinions or decisions, and be open to learn from other peoples opinions and desires. Then, as Mike suggested, a community can have diversity, tolerance, and thus more strength, while if the basic values are different, then as Rob says, you're in trouble. Thus the importance of distinguishing. 3. Mike quotes from the Mission Statement of Geneva Community (yes, it is unchanged). We are no shining example of anything, but I do like our Mission Statement! We read it aloud before every meeting in order to keep the focus. As Mike says, it is explicit, but does not cover decisions at all, which is a different matter altogether. "To assist each other to fulfill our life's purposes and contribute to the sustainability and evolution of humanity and our Earth". I'm glad Mike quoted that one, because to me as well it is the bottom line, the essence of why we are together. Thus, the way it can work in an ideal situation, is this: when a decision is needed, rather than touting our own wonderfully articulate or passionate personal opinions on the subject, we can go back to that line from the Mission Statement, and we all can look to see which decision best fulfills it (as oppossed to which decision best serves oneself). It's like the Supreme Court testing a new law by seeing if it is in the spirit of the Constitution. To make a decision based on the community good rather than the personal is a wonderfull expression of community. This only is healthy and not dis-empowering if the there are shared values. Mike says "I like Geneva's mission and goals and believe they help prevent getting into differences about things such as Rob mentioned in his "typical values conflicts" list." My reply, is "thanks for the positive energy" and "they do work ... to the degree that we follow them"! So it seems to me that the paradox of shared values vs diversity can be solved by distinguishing between opinions and values, establishing those values early on, and then referring to them instead of one's own opinion when the discussion gets heated and the 'compost hits the fan'. The reason I'm writing this, as you've probably already guessed, is because I need to hear it over and over again in order to get it myself. Buzz Burrell Boulder
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RE: Diversity and values Rob Sandelin, April 12 1995
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- Re: RE: Diversity and values Rob Sandelin, April 14 1995
- Diversity and values Adele94121, April 17 1995
- RE: Diversity and Values Buzz Burrell, April 17 1995
- RE: Diversity and Values Rob Sandelin, April 17 1995
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