RE: cohousing v. other uses of your energy | <– Date –> <– Thread –> |
From: Rob Sandelin (Exchange) (RobsanExchange.MICROSOFT.com) | |
Date: Wed, 29 Nov 1995 16:58:35 -0600 |
First of all I have to admit that I am somewhat abnormal in that Cohousing and Intentional community building and networking are my primary volunteer activities. So you should filter my opinions through that. In my observations there is a balance which sort of evens everything out over the long term. Yes, It requires energy and time to get this development work done. But then there is the return, community dinners, community kid sharing, resource sharing, etc. which over the long term, returns the time back to you. Even when you live in community there is that balance. Committee meetings, social events, time just spent hanging out in the commonspace, requests for your ideas and input on this project or that. You can let community consume as much of your time as there is, or only invest the time you want to. Not long ago I left to get the mail and it took two hours to get back home again because I kept runnin into neighbors who wanted to talk about this or that, or needed my help with something. Living with a group people in a socially enhanced environment does that to you. Sometimes it can drive you crazy when you want to get some little thing done and four people come in the space of a half an hour with something they have to get your input on. So you either get good at politely declining or you end up distracted. Its really your choice. There probably isn't a single meeting that I go to that I couldn't honestly say there isn't something else I would rather be doing. But in the end, I go to the meeting anyway (most the time) because its the most important thing to me at the time. In conversations with others this seems to be true of many other members as well. We would rather be doing something else, but feel the community meeting is important enough to give our time to it. I think the borders of time and energy are sharpest with parents of small kids. Groups which have stringent participation requirements seem to lose parents of small kids. In families where both parents work outside the home, asking them to cut substantially into the few hours of time they get with their children is asking more than is reasonable. Typically there seems to be a fluctuating bell curve of participation in community, with a small group of people giving lots of time, a small group of people giving little time, and most people giving somewhere between little and lots. The primary cost of community, is time. If you don't pay the price, you won't get the product. Rob Sandelin Sharingwood
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cohousing v. other uses of your energy baschel, November 28 1995
- Re: cohousing v. other uses of your energy 'Judith Wisdom, November 29 1995
- Re: cohousing v. other uses of your energy Monty Berman, November 29 1995
- Re: cohousing v. other uses of your energy Monty Berman, November 29 1995
- RE: cohousing v. other uses of your energy Rob Sandelin (Exchange), November 29 1995
- Re: cohousing v. other uses of your energy DPFarber, November 29 1995
- Re: cohousing v. other uses of your energy YOUNGBRA, November 29 1995
- Re: cohousing v. other uses of your energy Judy, December 12 1995
- Re: cohousing v. other uses of your energy MelaSilva, December 14 1995
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