Re: "Weirdos" | <– Date –> <– Thread –> |
From: Matt Lawrence (matttechnoronin.com) | |
Date: Wed, 16 Feb 2000 13:07:05 -0700 (MST) |
On Sat, 12 Feb 2000, Sharon Villines wrote: > > At our information meetings we are often asked "What if some weirdo wants to > > join the group"? > > I can't remember who on the list contributed this but the best response I've > heard to this question is that "weirdos" aren't attracted to cohousing > because > > 1) it requires too much personal responsibility and > > 2) the focus on process doesn't allow control by an individual. > > The behaviors people usually consider "weird" are used to avoid personal > responsibility or to control everyone around them. When they don't work, > hese people drift away after a few meetings. Actually, I've been thinking about this from the other side. Most of the cohousing groups I've corresponded with here in North America seem to have many of the stereotypical middle class, white collar predjudices and intolerance. Since I'm a bit non-traditional, this worries me. 1) I'm a computer geek. I have a routed DSL connection at home with a 5-bit subnet. I think discussions of the Sapir-Worf hypothesis and how it applies to computer languages are absolutely facinating. I have a copy of the O'Reilly book on Lego Mindstorms on my bookshelf. 2) I want to build airplanes. I've found that a number of white-collar types don't want to work with their hands. For me, a top-notch workshop is a requirement and I would love to share it with others who restore antique cars, build furniture, etc. 3) I ride a motorcycle and have been mistaken for a bad-ass biker. 4) I do amateur radio, so an absolute prohibition on external antennas would be a problem for me. I'm probably better socialized than many ham radio operators, but that's not saying much. 5) I'm Pagan. Groups (not just cohousing groups) that open their meetings with a very Christian prayer make me uncomfortable. I don't mind a group celebrating various religious holidays, I just don't want to have problems observing my holidays. I've also run into the problem of people assuming I'm Christian and getting upset when they discover my beliefs. I don't proseletyze and I'm very low-key about it, but I'm probably more religious than the average American. 6) I'm middle-aged, heterosexual and single with no children. I'm not quite sure how I managed to never get married, but it puts me in a very small class of men and, again, it makes some people uncomfortable when they try to catagorize me. 7) I serious dislike the current American model of "you live in the suburbs and drive into the factory in the city to work". I'm very interested in a mixed residential/commercial development. This has rather horrified some of the cohousing folks I've spoken with. Well, there are some of my concerns. They don't apply to all cohousing groups, but I've run into these problems at least once. -- Matt
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"Weirdos" Sharon Villines, February 12 2000
- RE: "Weirdos" Rob Sandelin, February 13 2000
- Re: "Weirdos" Sharon Villines, February 13 2000
- Re: "Weirdos" Matt Lawrence, February 16 2000
- Re: "Weirdos" Eris Weaver, February 16 2000
- Re: "weirdos" Judy Baxter, February 17 2000
- Re: "Weirdos" Kay Argyle, February 22 2000
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