Religious Practices in Cohousing/NVC | <– Date –> <– Thread –> |
From: Racheli Gai (rachelisonoracohousing.com) | |
Date: Sat, 27 Sep 2003 17:13:07 -0600 (MDT) |
Raines wrote: >Perhaps this is a good opportunity to model in NVC what (if anything) you > do when you believe that the observation was in error or doesn't reflect > reality (i.e. it came out that neither event in question actually did >conflict with the holiday) ... do you continue to process the observation > and the reactions to it because the reactions are genuine and what's >important regardless of whether the underlying situation is actually an >issue... or do you go back to the first-to-react and let them know that >they don't need to worry, the perception was in error so the underlying >problem doesn't exist? I think that the discussion kept going because the initial reaction by some of the participants triggered response from others, and so on. At that point it wasn't about any event in particular, but about the basic issue. (I agree with the implied wish that those who complained acknowledged their mistake). >Also, a note on this particular discussion, echoing something I've seen >on Coho-L before... we start by talking about an event ABOUT cohousing >for people not necessarily in a community... and people respond as though > it were an event IN the community FOR people in the community, which is >an entirely different kettle of fish (although certainly sharing some >principles in common). Yes, that struck me as peculiar too. I do think that scheduling within the community is very different from scheduling an event for the public at large. While we are on the subject of religious affiliations, it occurred to me at some point during the exchange that for some people the religious affiliation seemed to be such an important part of their identity: Perhaps that's why they saw the recognition/acknowledgment of it as a top priority. For me (perhaps because I didn't grow up in this country?) religious affiliation is something to be taken into account, but on various occassions other considerations may over-ride it. (Religious is probably not the exact word I'm looking for, since I'm thoroughly secular). Anyway, maybe it's subtle/unspoken underlying values such as this which cause strife, because the ones who see the affiliation as all-important expect it to be that way for all, when this isn't the case. (I'm not sure I've articulated this very well). R. ----------------------------------------------------------- racheli [at] sonoracohousing.com (Racheli Gai) ----------------------------------------------------------- _______________________________________________ Cohousing-L mailing list Cohousing-L [at] cohousing.org Unsubscribe and other info: http://www.cohousing.org/cohousing-L
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Re: Religious Practices in Cohousing/NVC Becky Schaller, September 27 2003
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Re: Religious Practices in Cohousing/NVC Raines Cohen, September 27 2003
- Religious Practices in Cohousing/NVC Racheli Gai, September 27 2003
- RE: Religious Practices in Cohousing/NVC Emily, September 28 2003
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Re: Religious Practices in Cohousing/NVC Raines Cohen, September 27 2003
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