RE: Values in community, was sexuality | <– Date –> <– Thread –> |
From: Rob Sandelin (floriferousmsn.com) | |
Date: Tue, 14 Mar 2006 16:35:29 -0800 (PST) |
Let me clarify the points that I was trying to make 1: your beliefs and values are yours and others may not share them, even if it is a stated community value, 2. if a large majority of a group holds a value, those that do not will sometimes not say anything about it so you will not ever know for sure what is going on and 3., Sometimes you simply have to accept people for how they are because you realise that YOU, standing on your soapbox and criticizing them, will not magically change them into how you want them to be. I would hope that within a community of people, shunning and other forms of disaproval would not be used on those folks whose values might not match that of the stated community, or even the unstated but community majority. I would hope that tolerance and wisdom would apply. Having intervened as a consultant on a few occaisions in situations like this, I can say sadly, sometimes communities operate sometimes no better than the rest of society, and those who are different are driven out. Communities, especially cohousing, tends to be pretty liberal. Perhaps the real test of tolerance is not living with a socially acceptable gay couple, but living with a socially unaccepatable anti-gay religious person. If this makes you see red and you want to get on your soapbox and yell at me, feel free to do so privately at floriferous [at] msn.com Rob Sandelin Naturalist, Writer The Environmental Science School http://www.nonprofitpages.com/nica/SVE.htm ><((((º>`·..·`·..·`·...><((((º>...·`·..·`·...><((((º>.·`·..·`·...><((((º>.·` ·..·`·...><((((º>·.. ><((((º> ·`·..·`·...·..·`><((((º>.·`·..·`·...><((((º>.·`·..·`·...><((((º>..·`·..·`·.. .><((((º>·.. ·`·..·`·....·`·..·`·...><((((º> -- No virus found in this outgoing message. Checked by AVG Free Edition. Version: 7.1.375 / Virus Database: 268.2.2/280 - Release Date: 3/13/2006
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- Re: Values in community, was sexuality Bonnie Fergusson, March 16 2006
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Re: Values in community, was sexuality Elizabeth Edmiston, March 14 2006
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Re: Values in community, was sexuality Sharon Villines, March 15 2006
- Re: Values in community, was sexuality ken, March 16 2006
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Re: Values in community, was sexuality Sharon Villines, March 15 2006
- RE: Values in community, was sexuality Rob Sandelin, March 14 2006
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RE: Values in community, was sexuality Alexander Robin A, March 16 2006
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Re: Values in community, was sexuality Amy Gahran, March 16 2006
- Re: Values in community, was sexuality ken, March 17 2006
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Re: Values in community, was sexuality Amy Gahran, March 16 2006
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